In no way do I claim to be a relationship expert, therapist, or have all the answers, because I don’t. But what I do have is simple advice stemming from years of listening to tales of “girl loves the boy, boy does wrong by the girl”. I’ve been on the wronged end before, but thankfully not for long, because I wised up ages ago, and am happily married for 9 years.
Let's get to the meat! This simple advice can be compared to a day of shopping. If you’re out looking for an outfit and trying on clothes; if you put something on and it doesn’t fit or you don’t like it, do you buy it anyway? No! You wouldn’t waste your money on buying clothes that are unflattering, not the right fit, or you don’t like. So why waste your time, and your valuable self on relationships that are not the right fit. That is the best analogy that I can think of to allow you to understand the choice you have with waiting for the right relationship, much like you would with not selecting a bad wardrobe.
Now, let's break it down a little. For those of you that think it's preposterous to compare dating with shopping, its actually quite similar. If you try something on and don’t like it, you don’t buy it, you keep looking. You wouldn’t dare waste your hard earned money on something you would never wear right? Same approach you should take with dating. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “I knew he was …..Insert one hundred bad adjectives. But, I thought he would change”. Newsflash, people don’t just miraculously change! What you see is what you get, take it for face value.
Are you concerned that the romance has been fizzling away in your relationship and you’ve been thinking of ways to reignite the flame? Life happens! The stresses of being a working professional, raising children, and household duties are a few reasons to leave you feeling burnt out, and in turn not much energy left at the end of the day or week towards being engaging towards your spouse.
Murphy's law tends to strike; thankfully not often,but when it does: I’ve had a busy work schedule, two toddlers in full tantrum mode, and chores that overflowed all in the same week. Weeks as such, after mommy duties, I just want to retreat to my tempurpedic mattress and drift off into sleep land.
It is a natural human reaction once you feel overwhelmed to be less than enthused towards anyone and anything else. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, you make time for what you want to make time for … and who you want. Oh my, how true that is, and making your mate feel valued and loved should be at the top of the list of what you want to make time for.
I can’t stress enough how important it is to have a solid emotional connection with your mate. In most cases, especially for women, our emotions influence our mood. Establishing a strong emotional connection allows room for romance and intimacy, which are all-important elements to strengthen your marriage. So if time or complacency is a factor, you’re in luck, all that is needed is effort, and what’s a little effort for the person that means the most to you. Below are a few ways to rekindle your emotional connection with your spouse without breaking the bank in the process.
Relationships are so important and help build the essence of who we are. When you build and mend relationships, you are building your character as well. Colossians 3:23 "And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men."