I have so much adoration for people that are unapologetically themselves. However quirky, weird, or obnoxious they may be to others, it matters not because they don't see themselves as any of the aforementioned and are content with who they are. I think it is a wonderful quality to be so comfortable with who you are that you don't try to change to appear more "normal" to others.
Why is it that we’ve been conditioned to think that conforming to what we think others expect of us or what we deem as more acceptable is normal.
It isn’t, in fact, it’s just plain ole draining and uncomfortable!!
Ever have an outing planned or scheduled to attend a social gathering and you have some angst about it because you know it’s going to be a whole lot of pretending...on your part?
You should never make a habit of acting other than who you are. If you practice pretending you are sure to forget who you really are. There are only a few occasions when you should adjust to fit the setting and one example is in a professional setting.
Example: if you are naturally loud and vibrant, you may have to intentionally turn your voice down a notch if you work in an office cubicle setting.
The beauty in you is that you were fearfully and wonderfully made, you are unique, what you have to offer, the world needs, and the great news is there is only one you! How great is it that when God made you, he broke the mold, you are a true one of a kind rare collectible.
I know it could be challenging to transition your thoughts if you have always been a people pleaser, that's essentially what it is. But, there is hope and freedom on the other end.
Be YOU! Unapologetically!! Don’t dim your light to try to please others, the only thing you should strive to be is better, kinder, and greater.
I had to learn this too...but the real you is more exciting than any pretending because it's you!
What you can do:
I love social media. I think its presence and impact on the world is phenomenal. The ability to connect people and bring awareness to issues across the globe is nothing short of amazing. Not to mention the marketing and advertising aspect of social media; I can’t count how many times I decided to try a product or visit a new place because I saw a testimonial on social media. Talk about great for business.
But (and there is always a but), sometimes I feel as if people have grown too reliant on social media to share information that deserves the courtesy of a phone call.
I can recall having a friend confront me about not knowing about her new relationship. When we spoke I thought, how could I have forgotten the details of that conversation?!? After a bit of back and forth she confessed, “Well I put it on Instagram!” insinuating that because it was shared on social media, I was obligated to know about it.
If it’s big news feel free to share away on social media, but remember that a phone call is sometimes more appropriate. Sometimes social media makes me feel a bit “old fashioned.” Forgive me but I feel strongly about fostering relationships the old fashioned way - like in person or by picking up the phone to connect where you can see people’s excitement (or lack thereof) and/or hear the expression on their voice. Status updates and shared pictures just don’t have the same effect.
Take care of yourself from the inside out. Treat your mind, body, and soul well. Live a life that is pleasing. Colossians 1:10 "That ye might walk worthy of the Lord unto all pleasing, being fruitful in every good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God."