I have so much adoration for people that are unapologetically themselves. However quirky, weird, or obnoxious they may be to others, it matters not because they don't see themselves as any of the aforementioned and are content with who they are. I think it is a wonderful quality to be so comfortable with who you are that you don't try to change to appear more "normal" to others.
Why is it that we’ve been conditioned to think that conforming to what we think others expect of us or what we deem as more acceptable is normal.
It isn’t, in fact, it’s just plain ole draining and uncomfortable!!
Ever have an outing planned or scheduled to attend a social gathering and you have some angst about it because you know it’s going to be a whole lot of pretending...on your part?
You should never make a habit of acting other than who you are. If you practice pretending you are sure to forget who you really are. There are only a few occasions when you should adjust to fit the setting and one example is in a professional setting.
Example: if you are naturally loud and vibrant, you may have to intentionally turn your voice down a notch if you work in an office cubicle setting.
The beauty in you is that you were fearfully and wonderfully made, you are unique, what you have to offer, the world needs, and the great news is there is only one you! How great is it that when God made you, he broke the mold, you are a true one of a kind rare collectible.
I know it could be challenging to transition your thoughts if you have always been a people pleaser, that's essentially what it is. But, there is hope and freedom on the other end.
Be YOU! Unapologetically!! Don’t dim your light to try to please others, the only thing you should strive to be is better, kinder, and greater.
I had to learn this too...but the real you is more exciting than any pretending because it's you!
What you can do:
Who can relate to waking up one day and realizing that a year has just passed you by? A year pass and you're two steps further from the goals you set at the start of the year. It's not like you didn't give your goals any thoughts, it's more like the thoughts just stayed in your mind without any actions.
Well, I can definitely relate, I'd be first to quickly raise a hand and cover face in shame. Yep me!
There is a lot of research devoted to the statement that it takes 21 days to form a habit or being consistent enough to break a habit after 21 days. The notion is if you do anything for 21 days straight, it can become a lifestyle for you. Essentially you become accustomed to this action and therefore it becomes a habit.
After having my third child I knew I had to develop a consistent exercise regiment as well as customize my diet to have the results I desired. 0f course 35 pounds wouldn't just vanish on its own, don't we all just wish it would though. My midsection was going to make me work for it, and hard. I was faced with a desire versus "legitimate" excuses on why I couldn't have a consistent exercise regiment and a better diet to lose weight and there it began, a battle of the will. I was determined to develop better habits and here is how I did it.
Take care of yourself from the inside out. Treat your mind, body, and soul well. Live a life that is pleasing. Colossians 1:10 "That ye might walk worthy of the Lord unto all pleasing, being fruitful in every good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God."